People need to learn four basic skills to hold conversations, ask for help, and complain. Autistic people who do not learn these skills face severe problems and panic attacks throughout their lives and exhibit strange behavior. But what happens to neurotypicals who do not learn these skills?
In my opinion, they become suicidal starting at age six.
Forty-five years ago, a friend told me that he had considered suicide the year before, and I didn’t understand that. Severe autistic people have a photographic memory and a need to gather information. So, I conducted in-depth research into this subject.
In 2019, I came across an article on a scientific website (I had to take out a year’s subscription for $52) stating that research had shown suicidal behavior is common among six-year-old children.
Which raises the question of what kind of severe problems six-year-old children could possibly have?
In my opinion, they suffer from a form of extreme loneliness.
Neurotypical four-year-olds only have to make a sound and parents rush over to investigate what is going on. But by the age of five, children have to learn to get their parents’ attention themselves.
When children ask questions of parents who are busy with something, parents perceive this as whining and get angry. But if a child makes strange noises to attract their parents’ attention and only asks a question when the parent looks in their direction, then parents are more than willing to set aside a few minutes to answer the child’s question with great pleasure or to explain for the hundredth time that they do not know why the sky is blue.
As long as the parent is looking in their direction, the child may ask as many questions as they like. But there are two exceptions to that rule:
- When the parent looks up and yawns, they are not interested in the child’s story. If the child continues talking anyway, the parent eventually stands up and walks away.
- When the parent’s facial expression changes to something that aligns with the child’s story, then the parent has understood them. If the child continues talking, boredom sets in for the parent. After a while, he looks up, yawns, and then walks away.
Neuropathic children learn the fourth skill on their own initiative at the age of eight.
If a neurotypical child has not learned these three skills by the age of six, he has already had no contact with his parents for a year. It seems to me that he feels extremely lonely then.
Loneliness raises a number of questions: If no one wants to talk to me, what am I still doing here? What is the purpose of all this? What is the purpose of life?
Suicidal behavior consists of three phases of three months followed by a rest period of four months. After that, people become suicidal again.
In the first phase, people reflect on the purpose of life. When they do not find an answer to that question, they enter an extremely severe depression in the second phase. In 100% of cases, people conclude the second phase with a decision about where and how they are going to kill themselves. In the third phase, they enter a period of extreme anxiety that passes spontaneously after two months. Over the course of four weeks, they become increasingly happy. They feel euphoric for a few days, and 99% reverse their decision to kill themselves.
The literature provides no information about what happens during the resting period, but I believe that people try to connect with the people who are most important to them. Starting with their parents.
But because they lack the skills required for this, they become increasingly lonely. After four months, they feel just as extremely lonely again as they did at age six.
In my opinion, it is perfectly possible for these neurotypicals to learn conversational skills at school at age seven, and the suicidal behavior would then disappear on its own.
But as long as autistic people are not taught these skills, mental health services can earn hundreds of billions a year by failing to carry out the treatments they promise. Scammers discovered centuries ago that you can earn more by not solving problems. Because people then keep coming back for another attempt.